Each month, we at the Center for Spiritual Living Midtown embrace a new theme. In May we’re diving into a theme that affects almost every aspect of our lives – emotions.
There are myriad emotions – happy, sad, fearful, excited, and so on. In dealing with emotions, there are two types of people: those who observe their emotions and understand how to deal with them, and those who feel emotions and run from them. This is associated with the “fight or flight” part of our brain. If you tend to run from your emotions, don’t worry, many people do and sometimes that is what our brain is telling us to do. However, it’s best to learn to recognize emotions and learn how to deal with them, whether they’re good or bad.
This week’s affirmation was “ I am blessed and grateful for my feelings and emotions.”
Now you might be thinking how could I be grateful for negative emotions like sadness or fear? We like to compare our emotions to a spice rack. Can you imagine only having one spice on your spice rack? It would be boring and you would crave other spices, right? Well, our emotions are the same. If we didn’t experience several emotions, there would be no excitement. It would be the same old, same old, all the time.
It is actually a good thing to experience ALL emotions. Including the negative emotions like sadness, fear and anxiety. The key is to be able to recognize them, understand them and communicate them. If you cannot do this – then emotions could become problematic. When you get caught up in the emotions and the feelings, you’re not able to process them correctly.
Dr. Bob compares this to a coach (carriage).The science of mind draws from the ancient model from the Upanishads for a model of the human experience as a coach – yourself and your spiritual self are the passengers. Your beliefs and emotions are the horse. You and your spirit control where the horse goes and how fast. Now imagine losing control of the horse. If all control is lost, your emotions will run away. If we don’t balance our emotions we lose control of ourselves.
Having a balance of our emotions and being able to control them is important for many reasons, one of them being relationships. Every relationship evokes emotions and you may have experienced a relationship where one or both people cannot identify and balance their emotions. When this happens, conflicts arise in the relationship and it results in poor communication. If you’re able to identify the emotion and communicate what you’re feeling, communication becomes easy and problems are avoided. This applies to every relationship whether it’s in a work environment, friendship or marriage.
Dr. Bob ends with the renowned quote from Maya Angelou, “people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but they will never forget how you made them feel.”
Emotions are powerful, but if you are able to balance them you are also powerful.
Don’t miss our Sunday celebration live on Facebook this Sunday, May 8, as we dive into the emotion of fear!